Looking back when our pregnancy was just starting, I could remember using Google to browse around to find tips.
When guys type in “Pregnancy Tips for Men” on Google, they usually think of the following things:
1. They are looking for tips to make the pregnancy phase easier
2. How they can get their girl pregnant
3. How they can get another man pregnant (ala Arnold)
Now, I don’t know about you, but I’m one of those that chose #1.
So for those reading this that chose #2 and #3, then you might not want to continue reading.
Currently, we are at our 3rd trimester. Light will be coming out soon and we can’t wait!
It has been pretty hard to focus on work though. A lot of things are going on right now and running a startup is hard enough on it’s own.
Being through most of the pregnancy stage, I’ve identified some things that made the pregnancy phase easy.
9 Pregnancy Tips for Men
(…That Actually Care)
1. Go to the Doctor with Her
Yup, you need to make time. You can’t let her commute or let her drive alone each time she has to go for the regular checkup.
I know we’re all busy. We have to work and make money since it’s for their sake but I would advice to schedule a date ahead of time, probably on a weekend. Then you won’t have any excuse.
It’s great to be there for her, listen to the heartbeat, hear about things that she’d normally forget to tell you (like some painful areas or how the Iron supplements are…you get the picture) – and you can remind her of what the doc says.
Say the doc tells her “No CAKES” then it means “NO CAKES!” It’s your duty to watch her diet. It will be for their own good!
Our doctor, Solema Granados Rivera, has made our transition a very easy one and I am thankful for that. (That’s a plug, I expect a discount! Can someone please tell her about this LOL) – BTW, it also helps if you have a way to record the data, like an electronic health record (EHR/EMR) as that helps you and your doctor track everything.
Each time you go to the doctor, they check blood pressure and record the weight.
I’d advice that you go one step further. Grab a tape measure and start measuring different parts of her body.
Why? It’s because some women will gain more than the others. Some will very easily show that they gained weight, some won’t even show how they gained 23 lbs in 5 months of pregnancy.
Normal weight gain during the pregnancy phase is 25-30 lbs. I know that there are a lot of variables, like bloating/water retention from the previous day’s salty food fest, poop (LOL), increased muscle weight or even a “birthday” cheat day which can just be temporary weight which is why it’s all the more important that you keep tab.
It’s for your own peace of mind. You don’t want your wife to go out of control and gain too much weight, no matter what Lady Gaga says.
3. Keep Yo’ Ass Out Of Trouble
Please. Just stay out of trouble for the whole pregnancy phase. It’s very easy to do. Stay at home. Get the boys to come over. Work when you are at home to keep yourself busy. Read. Watch Honest Trailers. Play some games. Watch some movies. The 9 months will just fly by like it was nothing.
She already has a lot of things going on. You don’t want to raise her cortisol level (from stress) as it’s REALLY bad for the baby.
Read my post about Trello. When you are apart most of the day due to work, you can coordinate plans using the board I created. You can customise it to your own liking. You can use it to set alarms, tell you when you need to buy medicine and so on.
For your wives, you might want to suggest the Glow Nurture app or My Baby Center to be a supplement app for their daily logs.
Oh, and by the way, PLEASE Remind Her to Count Kicks
My Baby Center has a “Kick Tracker” tool which will give you more points in the peace-of-mind department. No need to worry if baby is active and doing well. 🙂
5. Make Time Before the 3rd Trimester
Before the final stretch, you need to set plans and make the most of it. The 3rd trimester will be harder for her when you want to go on long road trips. Many things will be uncomfortable for her and her shortness of breath will be more obvious.
So plan ahead and have fun!
The both of you will need to be in shape. Having a new born will take a toll on your body so keep it in top condition.
Eat properly, exercise regularly. It will keep the backpain away and you’ll be able to cope with those sleepless nights.
For your wife, try to recommend these exercises.
7. Listen to Audiobooks When Driving/During Commute
You only have a few hours in a day and you waste time traveling to work and then back home.
Make the most of it by listening to audiobooks. Lots of them on Amazon.
8. Finish Your Pending Projects
You have to finish your work as soon as possible. No more wasting time and being complacent. Sit your butt down and get things done.
You will have more time to spend with your wife and that will make it better for her. Improve her mood = less emotional crap for you to deal with!
One more thing, limit your work hours. I used to work 16-18 hours in a day! I’ve cut it down to a strict 8 hour time frame. Whatever I finish within those hours SHOULD be good enough so be sure to start the day right and with a plan.
Productivity Tip: You might want to try out the Pomodoro Technique. Chris Winfield did a great blog post on how he uses it for his own tasks. I’ll probably share mine in the future (I currently use Pomodoro+Trello)
9. Listen to Other Dads
Talk to other dads! Or at least, listen to them.
I usually ignore HuffPo posts but this one from Aaron Gouveia raised a LOT of great points that I’m not even “technically” allowed to mention here on my baby’s blog. (Be sure to read his blog, Daddy Files – probably the most entertaining daddy blog out there.)
Bruce Sallan hosts #DadChat (It’s a TwitterChat. Just type the hashtag in the search box when you are on Twitter) each week and they talk about great stuff. I’d highly recommend that you take part and join in. You’d get a lot of tips, especially for after pregnancy!
So if you’re a dad, join Twitter and join #DadChat
So for all the soon to be dads out there, those are my tips for you. They have made my transition easy and I’ve barely been on the receiving end of a pregnancy induced emotional burst. Follow the things mentioned above and you’ll enjoy the pregnancy stage rather than hate it.
How about you? What are your tips for the other dads? I’d love to hear from you and I’m sure a lot of other dads will find them useful.